Lovingkindness 2.0

Do you have a certain "difficult" someone in your life whose face appears in your mind's eye way too often?

A certain someone you have a "history" with...
...a history that keeps re-writing itself -- over and over-- in your head?

A history of wounds that need to finally heal?
Or a history that isn't entirely written yet, that needs to move forward?
Or a history that needs to find closure-- finally-- but a closure that's healthy for both parties?
Or a relationship that will be okay for both parties-- once a clearcut line is drawn in the sand?
Or maybe you don't know what needs to happen with this difficult person, but you know that SOMETHING needs to happen?

 

4Welcome.

Do you have a certain “difficult” someone in your life whose face pops up in your mind a lot? Someone who you have a “history” with, a history that keeps re-writing itself in your head?

You find yourself remembering situations with this person, things they said to you, things they did to you and maybe even people you care about, things that just aren’t “okay”?

OR

Maybe you find yourself reviewing those conversations and thinking, “Why did I say THAT?” Or, I should have told her ______! That would have certainly put her in her PLACE.”

Or, “I should have told her ______. And if I had, we’d still be as close to one another as ever.”

And when you’re listening to what you know to be absolutely true in your gut, you know you….

  • need to heal this wounded relationship so that both you and this person can heal, or
  • want to deepen a relationship that could be more intimate, meaningful and caring, or
  • need to really, truly, finally let go of this person in a kind way so you both can move on, or
  • learn to negotiate with a difficult someone– such as a co-worker or family member– who is NOT going anywhere anytime soon but who is currently making your miserable, or…

There are other scenarios as well. And, if you’re still reading you FEEL what I’m talking about…

Congratulations, smart heart.

You’re reading this because you’re on a heart-centered path or have “matters of  the heart” that are stalking your thoughts asking for your attention.  Maybe you’re wondering how you might deepen the emotional exploration you’re on through heart-centered meditation practices. Or maybe you know it’s finally time to begin facing those nagging emotional thoughts because they are absolutely not going ANYWHERE.

Your life has been changed by shifting your self-examining focus down from your head and into your heart– a little or a lot.

You know your feelings are powerful. You want to align with your feelings so that they’re finally on your side rather than interrupting your daily life– distracting you at work and/or causing you to avoid certain places, situations or people and/or keeping you in a state of wishing, regretting, re-evaluating.

Basically, you’re ready to meet your emotions and the relationships they’re rooted in. You’re ready to deal with your emotions with the same skill and sophistication that you use to deal with your thoughts.

If so, you’re in the right place!

I made Lovingkindness 2.0 especially for more heart-centered practitioners who want to go deeper, or people who’d like to begin exploring their own path of heart.

The story of how I came to create Lovingkindness 2.0 has proven to be interesting to lots of people, so I’ll share the short version with you in a moment.

First, what IS Lovingkindness 2.0, what will you do and what will it do for you?
Lovingkindness 2.0 is a heart-centered digital experience:
  • part course
  • part practice
  • part consultation
  • part self-guided exploration
  • part community
Lovingkindness 2.0 is delivered in digital form over 4 weeks:
  • one module at a time, arriving each week for 4 weeks
  • each module begins with an email containing all links to the info and resources you’ll need for the week
  • you’ll get reading material, audio and explorations to try
  • includes the option to consult with me for 15 minutes during the first 2 weeks and again in the second 2 weeks.

The next round of LK 2.0 is FULL. It will begin Sunday, March 27, 2016. 

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Here’s how a participant described in a nutshell what is different about Lovingkindness 2.0 :

“Lovingkindness 2.0 is a deeper level of self-care and practice. And as a healing tool, it’s more effective.” 

It’s really up to you whether or not you take this deep dive into your emotional world.

The information in this page has been crafted to help you make the best decision for you at this time.

In making the choice, you might begin by taking a momentary pause right now. 

Seriously. Take a breath. As you exhale, feel your body soften. 

Now.  Here’s what Lovingkindness 2.0 is about:
  • Your work in Lovingkindness 2.0 will bring you instant insight into your relationships and you’ll see clearly how to accept, let go of and/or improve them.
  • You’ll start to understand why you think, feel and act they way you do– towards yourself and others.
  • You’ll begin to change from the very first practice. The change might be very apparent— to you, as well as others.
  • You’ll embark on a journey that won’t always be easy or fun– and might even get messy— because growth always involves challenge, discomfort and some degree of disruption.
And here’s what another participant said about Lovingkindness 2.0:

“Lovingkindness 2.0 was very reinvigorating for me– also enlightening, challenging and thought-provoking. It provides so many different ways to infuse meditation into everyday life. And it’s a very important practice!”

What you’ve already learned through your Lovingkindness practice:
  • how to practice Lovingkindness Meditation— how to visualize various people in your life, one after another and wish them well.
  • a lot about yourself by observing your life through the lens of Lovingkindness.
Your experience in Lovingkindness practice has probably been really intense and life-changing at times, and…

Maybe scary, shaking you at your foundations?

Or, practice might have been juicy and sweet, even when difficult.

But maybe eventually the intensity dropped?

Maybe at times your practice felt flat or dry.

Or, life happened and your practice existed only on your To Do Lists?

If so, you hit a plateau in your practice, that’s all.

Plateau is a natural phase that occurs in any kind of practice.

Hitting a practice plateau is like coasting on your bike after peddling for a long time.

Or relaxing after an extra rich dinner as your body begins to digest your meal.

Lovingkindness 2.0 will open up another frontier in your emotional life.

Only this time, instead of traveling far and wide, wishing each person well…

We’re going to drill down deep.

We’ll work down into our roots, exploring and nurturing ourselves from there.

So, how do we get down there into those more mysterious places, those deeper roots? 

Not by wishing one person well for a moment, then moving to another person…

In Lovingkindness 2.0, you’ll work with yourself + 1 other person.

You’ll focus on one person only, every session, repeatedly, for 4 weeks.

In a sense, you’ll be dedicating your practice to this person.

Or, to put it another way, you’ll be dedicating your practice to your relationship with them.

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Backstory: Brief description of my first experience with the work in Lovingkindness 2.0.

One participant’s reflection upon Lovingkindness 2.0’s impact on her relationships:

“So happy with the growth I experienced in LK 2.0. A fresh, honest view of myself and the person I chose to work with; I experienced a breakthrough in a personal relationship that will have long-lasting impact.”

What you get in Lovingkindness 2.0 and what you’ll do:
  • Guided Meditations – each week you’ll get a new guided meditation to follow daily or use as inspiration for the creation of your own practice
  • A User Experience Guide –  the first week, you’ll get a guide that you can reference with FAQ’s, suggestions and encouragement
  • Contemplation Work and Digging Exercises –  each week you’ll get new things to ponder — in practice and life — to help you map out ways to nourish your meditation practice and customize it to your needs so that your practice flows through your life as effortlessly and seamlessly as possible
  • Optional 15-Minute Consultations Sessions – each week you’ll have the opportunity to consult with Tina privately in the medium of your choice (email, phone or video call) to just check-in, address resistance or catalyze your results.. We’ll explore ways to help you make the most of your experience in Lovingkindness Meditation 2.0.
During the four weeks of Lovingkindness 2.0, you’ll also have the opportunity to: 
  • let go of baggage— thinking that no longer serves you and old, buried feelings you might not even know that you still harbor.
  • open up to those you want to deepen your connection with, such as work colleagues, members of your community or family members you’re not particularly close to.
  • let go of toxic relationships when you wisely know it’s time, and not just because you’re angry or afraid.
  • cultivate ways to safely and respectfully navigate challenging relationships, so they can improve— or, at the very least, be less harmful.

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The Inner Junkyard: A Selection from my talk in Module 1.
How others have grown from Lovingkindness 2.0:
  • They softened their armor – defensive, reactive and overly-protective behavior melted away.
  • They found genuine courage – not just “poker face” — but courage to really be present and show up in their relationships.
  • They cleared the clutter in their head – and witnessed a bigger picture of reality, where possibility actually exists
  • They sharpened their emotional intelligence – based on knowing how they really want to feel 
  • They deepened their personal meditation practice – learning a simple but powerful, more seasoned version of Lovingkindness Meditation to get real with themselves.
If Lovingkindness 2.0 is for you, it’s because:
  • You’ve practiced Lovingkindness Meditation, have found it beneficial and are now ready to find the courage to do the work to deepen, empower and authenticate your practice.
  • You have a relationship (partner, friend, family member, or even a difficult work colleague) that you sense can be more fulfilling and connected and (depending upon the nature of the relationship) perhaps even more committed.
  • You’re ready to own your thoughts, feelings and actions.
  • You feel inspired to shift the dynamic of a relationship and want to learn how.
  • You’ve decided to release a relationship (to consciously uncouple or discontinue work with a certain colleague, for example) and would like to release the stories and baggage you’re holding onto about them so that you can move on with more clarity, freedom and velocity.
Before you embark on this journey, are you willing to try to:
  • Somehow, make a declaration to yourself that now is the time to commit to this work?
  • Acknowledge any fears you have, or areas where you’re skeptical or “on the fence” about this work, knowing that these feelings are worthy of respect and examination and can be beneficial to the process when approached through skillful means (more about this later)?
  • Allow yourself to open again and again so you’re free to grow?

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One participant found the key to understanding a lot of the issues she had with other people:

“In all my thinking about relationship challenges, I had no idea how important forgiving myself was.”

Now for the story about how Lovingkindness 2.0 was created, and why people find it so interesting:

Lovingkindness 2.0 was born out of years of heart-centered work I did in, of all places, the corporate world. The most ground-breaking work I did was with one Fortune-500 company, in a program that started as a pilot, just to see if people could do meaningful heart-centered practice at work.

The result? In a short time, there was a waiting list of hundreds of people. Why? Because participants reported feeling calmer, more self-confident, more resilient and, yes, more enthusiastic about their job.

Mindfulness and thought-based practices work well on the job as well. But heart-centered practice is what heals emotions, builds courage, strengthens compassion and makes great leaders.

After a few years, some of the most dedicated practitioners asked for a way to deepen this heart-centered work. This is how Lovingkindness 2.0 was born. That same Fortune-500 company paid for a group of dedicated practitioners to try it out.

Most of these practitioners really showed up. They chose one relationship and worked through the layers of story, feeling and all the habits that had hardened around their emotional history. They took deep breaths as they entered places in themselves they had previously turned away from.  They held steady through the difficult moments and were rewarded. They gained insight and took huge emotional leaps. Reporting that they felt more open-hearted and clear-headed.

Their endorsements of LK 2.0 are shared throughout this page.

Then, someone who writes for The Huffington Post heard about this heart-centerd practice and asked to try it. She was so blown away by this work, and astounded that corporate executives would sign checks to pay for their employees to do such deep heart-centered practice at work, that she wrote about it in The Huffington Post.

From there, the general public became interested. People contacted me asking how they could sign up.

So, I made a version of Lovingkindness 2.0 for the general public, which is the version you’re thinking of joining.

Here’s what Tova Payne shared with me about her experience of LK 2.0, weeks before she decided to write about it in Huffington Post:

“Lovingkindness 2.0 had a deep, heartfelt impact on me. At times like a lighting bolt of clarity. A lot was uncovered. This is very different than my morning meditation/regular meditation. Feels like something beyond meditation. So much more than I expected. And Tina has great energy. I could feel it through the audio.” 

A few more things to ponder about Lovingkindness 2.0 and how this experience is designed:
  • This practice is simple in some ways, but has a powerful potential to bring lasting change. 
  • It’s a journey that can be described, as we’ve tried to do here. Hopefully, it’s been helpful.
  • However, ultimately, all meditation is an experiential journey. 

This means you have to actually show up and do the work in an earnest way in order to really know what the work is beyond words and concepts.

And I hope you will. You know why?

You’re worth it.

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